Frog-Scorpion
This is one of my all time favorites!! As a leader and a coach, I have always fought hard to challenge conventional wisdom - not to be a rebel, but because I believe that everyone is motivated differently and has a different interpersonal style. I am reminded often of the frog and scorpion when leading.
This is one of my all time favorites!! As a leader and a coach, I have always fought hard to challenge conventional wisdom - not to be a rebel, but because I believe that everyone is motivated differently and has a different interpersonal style. I am reminded often of the frog and scorpion when leading.
There once lived a scorpion and a frog.
There once lived a scorpion and a frog.
The scorpion wanted to cross the pond, but, being a scorpion, he couldn’t swim. So he scuttled up to the frog and asked: “Please Mr. Frog, can you carry me across the pond on your back?”
The scorpion wanted to cross the pond, but, being a scorpion, he couldn’t swim. So he scuttled up to the frog and asked: “Please Mr. Frog, can you carry me across the pond on your back?”
“I would,” replied the frog, “but, under the circumstances, I must refuse. You might sting me as I swim across.”
“I would,” replied the frog, “but, under the circumstances, I must refuse. You might sting me as I swim across.”
“But why would I do that?” asked the scorpion. “It is not in my interests to sting you, because you will die and I will drown.”
“But why would I do that?” asked the scorpion. “It is not in my interests to sting you, because you will die and I will drown.”
Although the frog knew how lethal scorpions were, the logic proved quite pervasive. Perhaps, felt the frog, in this one instance the scorpion would keep his tail in check. So the frog agreed. The scorpion climbed onto his back, and together they set off across the pond. In the middle of the pond, the scorpion twitched his tail and stung the frog. Mortally wounded, the frog cried out: “Why did you sting me? It is not in your interests to sting me, because now I will die and you will drown.”
Although the frog knew how lethal scorpions were, the logic proved quite pervasive. Perhaps, felt the frog, in this one instance the scorpion would keep his tail in check. So the frog agreed. The scorpion climbed onto his back, and together they set off across the pond. In the middle of the pond, the scorpion twitched his tail and stung the frog. Mortally wounded, the frog cried out: “Why did you sting me? It is not in your interests to sting me, because now I will die and you will drown.”
“I know,” replied the scorpion as he sank into the pond. “But I am a scorpion. I have to sting you. It’s in my nature.”
“I know,” replied the scorpion as he sank into the pond. “But I am a scorpion. I have to sting you. It’s in my nature.”
Conventional wisdom encourages you to think like a frog. People’s natures do change, it whispers. Anyone can be anything they want to be if they just tried hard enough. Indeed, as a manager it is your duty to direct those changes. Devise rules and policies to control your employees’ unruly inclinations. Teach them skills and competencies to fill in the traits they lack. All of your best efforts as a manager should focus on either muzzling or correcting what nature saw fit to provide.
Conventional wisdom encourages you to think like a frog. People’s natures do change, it whispers. Anyone can be anything they want to be if they just tried hard enough. Indeed, as a manager it is your duty to direct those changes. Devise rules and policies to control your employees’ unruly inclinations. Teach them skills and competencies to fill in the traits they lack. All of your best efforts as a manager should focus on either muzzling or correcting what nature saw fit to provide.
Great managers reject this out of hand. They remember what the frog forgot: that each individual, like the scorpion, is true to his unique nature. They recognize that each person is motivated differently, that each person has his own way of thinking and his own style of relating to others. They know that there is a limit to how much remolding they can do to someone. But they don’t bemoan these differences to grind them down. Instead they capitalize on them. They try to help each person become more and more of who he already is.
Great managers reject this out of hand. They remember what the frog forgot: that each individual, like the scorpion, is true to his unique nature. They recognize that each person is motivated differently, that each person has his own way of thinking and his own style of relating to others. They know that there is a limit to how much remolding they can do to someone. But they don’t bemoan these differences to grind them down. Instead they capitalize on them. They try to help each person become more and more of who he already is.
Simply put, this is the one insight we heard echoed by tens of thousands of great managers:
Simply put, this is the one insight we heard echoed by tens of thousands of great managers:
People don’t change that much.
People don’t change that much.
Don’t waste time trying to put in what was left out.
Don’t waste time trying to put in what was left out.
Try to draw out what was left in.
Try to draw out what was left in.
That is hard enough.
That is hard enough.
…This insight is revolutionary. It explains why great managers do not believe that everyone has unlimited potential; why they do not help people fix their weaknesses; why they insist on breaking the “Golden Rule” with every single employee; and why they play favorites. It explains why great managers break all the rules of conventional wisdom.
…This insight is revolutionary. It explains why great managers do not believe that everyone has unlimited potential; why they do not help people fix their weaknesses; why they insist on breaking the “Golden Rule” with every single employee; and why they play favorites. It explains why great managers break all the rules of conventional wisdom.
Verbatim from First, Break All the Rules by Marcus Buckingham and Curt Coffman
Verbatim from First, Break All the Rules by Marcus Buckingham and Curt Coffman